Dear Salam,
Understanding America requires understanding typical Americans. This could seem difficult since we are most diverse nation on earth. But, we all have something in common –we are all Americans. Plus most of us, but not near all of us, have our religion in common. With that in mind, I’ll pretend I am typical and explain myself to you.
The first thing you need to understand is that when I say that I am a Christian American, I am talking about two separate things. These two things influence each other I suppose, but as far as I am concerned, I go through my life wearing two hats.
When I wear my Christian hat, I am one passionate, non-tolerant, non-violent fellow. Just like you, Salam, I think my religion is the one true way to heaven. And, because I love you Salam – no, really, I really do love you – I want you to get to heaven. Therefore, I really would like to you to convert to my religion. That is what I mean by non-tolerant. It is not that I specifically dislike or disapprove of your prophet or your holy book, it is just that I don’t believe they will get you to heaven. To me, you tolerate something you don’t feel strongly about. Well, I feel strongly that I would like you to get to heaven, and therefore I feel strongly that I would like you to change your religion over to mine.
Some people mistake tolerance for tactics. You see, while I would like you to convert, I am not going to do much about it if you don’t. When I wear my Christian hat, I am one non-violent fellow. This is a biggie, Salam, you have really got to chew on this awhile. We Christians are really into this concept of Free Will. It means if you go to church and pray just because everyone else does and you want to fit it, well, then it doesn’t count. It won’t work. It won’t get you into heaven. You have to really want to go to church. You have to pray even when no one else is around to notice. So you see, Salam, if I twisted your arm and made you go to church, it wouldn’t get you into heaven, so why bother? Get it?
So, when I appear not to be trying too hard to get you to convert, it is not because I don’t care, and it is not because I “respect” your religion and therefore I am “tolerant” of your religion. I have a daughter who is currently into some new age nonsense involving Earth Spirits. I don’t respect Earth Spirits and I am not tolerant about the idea of my daughter going to Hell. But, I still love her, and while I will be forever inviting her to come back to church, I am never going to force her, and I am never going to punish her for not going.
So, Salam, you have nothing to fear from the Christian side of me. The Christian side of me is never going to hurt you. The American side of me is a different story.
This Free Will thing carries over when I wear my American hat, maybe more so. The American part of me is really into Freedom. We Americans disagree about almost everything except the importance of having the freedom to disagree.
Like virtually every American, there is an “old country” that “my people” came from. Actually, many “old countries” since three of my four Grandparents each trace their people back to a different “old country.” Since my wife has a different set of “old countries,” our kids can practically throw a dart at a map and be guaranteed of hitting an “old country.” The thing you have to understand about Americans is that we all bond together for a reason different than clan, tribe, race, or the place “our people” came from. We bond together through a common love of freedom. Should you ever come to live in America, Salam, once you let everyone know you love freedom, I mean really love it, love it more than anything else love it, then whammo, you belong – you become an American. And you don’t become some sort of second-class American, either. This Freedom thing comes with an Equality thing joined at the hip.
Now, assuming you stay over there in your country, there are some things you have to understand about the American part of me. First, the American part of me doesn’t care squat about your religion. I don’t respect it or disrespect it. I really don’t care. This Freedom thing includes Freedom of Religion, and so the American in me feels quite strongly that you are entitled to have any old religion you want.
The second thing is that we Americans are suckers for people in other countries that say they want freedom. We genuinely feel sorry for anyone who doesn’t have freedom. When we hear that someone who doesn’t have freedom is trying to achieve freedom, we instinctively want to help. That doesn’t necessarily mean we will do anything to help them, but if we don’t help them, we feel a little guilty.
The third thing is that we Americans understand deep in our bones that only the strong are truly free. The weak can also be free, but only if the strong say so. Therefore, deep in our bones, we know our freedom depends on our being stronger than everyone else. The need to be strongest means two things. First, the bottom line is that we will never be defeated. We may quit a war that we grow tired of, but we will never be defeated. The second is that because we are all one single tribe of freedom lovers, we all take it personally when any of us are killed. I didn’t know, nor am I related to, a single person who died on 9/11. But that didn’t matter. Americans died on 9/11. My fellow freedom loving Americans died on 9/11. Being strong means when you are whacked, you whack back harder. So far, we have taken down two countries due to 9/11.
If we sense a threat to our freedom, or to the lives of our fellow Americans, we will kick the butt of anyone and everyone.
So here is the bad part Salam. I sure hope I am wrong, but it sure looks like your religion has this thing against Free Will and Freedom. It looks like all of your clerics go around ordering people to do this and not do that. Our preachers tell us what we should do, not what we must do.
As long as your religious leaders preach stuff that is anti-freedom, Americans are going to be on the side that opposes your religious leaders. We might do absolutely nothing except cheer from the sidelines, or we might help a bit; or we might help a lot. Either way, if your religious leaders are anti-freedom, I can understand why they dislike Americans.
Frankly, both the Christian me and the American me are hoping that you will exercise your own free will and change. I hope you Muslims overseas find a way, as American Muslims have, to interpret your holy text is such a way as to permit freedom for both men and women.
Otherwise, Salam, I see us approaching a bad end. I don’t know when, where, and how, but unless the trends improve, I see us deciding one day that you are a true threat to our lives or to our freedom. Should that happen, dear Salam, the American part of me is going to fight you, and fight to win. The Christian part of me will feel real bad about it, and will pray for your soul, but it won’t stop the American part of me from, pardon my bluntness, killing you.
Love,
Clarence
p.s.: I am sure you can figure this out from what I said above, but permit me to add 2 + 2 for you. If you ever find your country filled with American military, the quickest and easiest way to get rid of them is to organize yourself into an at least semi-democratic government that promises to at least semi-protect freedom and then have that semi-democratic government ask us to leave. The best way to get us to stay a very long time is to commit frequent acts of violence in support of the notion of denying freedom to your countrymen (and women).